Why We Should Learn To Enjoy Our Own Company

Alone time is when I distance myself from the voices of the world so I can hear my own
~ Oprah 

Being alone is boring or sad…this is what someone said to me last week. A chat and a glass of wine later it transpired she just cannot stand being on her own. She feels lost like a billy-no-mates and doesn’t know what to do with herself.

Photo of a girl reading a book on a bed with coffee

Photo Cred: Anthony Tran

We chatted some more and she was curious as to why I enjoy having me-time. The look of absolute horror on her gorgeous face when I proudly announced I have been to the movies a few times alone was hilarious. The more we talked and the more I shared that for me it’s an opportunity to do whatever I want, what makes me happy, sometimes pushing myself out of my comfort zone I realised more than anything that I am just comfortable in my own skin, I now have inner peace. I talked about this earlier this month you can read about that here. Don’t get me wrong this hasn’t been easy, there have been many huge changes in my life over the last 7 years but I have worked hard to work through them and overcome them. Yes from time to time I can feel melancholy and that deep strong pull of Singapore still gets me right in the pit of my stomach sometimes because I miss being there so much, but it’s not as if it is going anywhere and I can go back at any time.

This whole conversation had my cogs going, it stuck with me for days hence this post. It seemed to be that my friend was scared of what other people would think if she was sat at home alone or going to the movies on her own, I wondered whether this was about being an introvert or extrovert. But does that really even matter? Does anyone else’s opinion even really matter? Of course not.

Picture of a girl taking a picture with her camera wearing a t-shirt and beanie hat in a street

Photo Cred: Max Panama / Unsplash

There are so many benefits to alone time and as The Secret says, how can you expect anyone to enjoy your company if you don’t even love it yourself?  Here’s why I think alone time is special:


Everyone has opinions and is entitled to them, it’s easy to get caught up in questioning the right thing to do or trying to form our own opinion on something because there are many strong-willed people out there who can impact this. Alone time gives you space to think, to form your own opinion and to reach any important decisions you want to make. I think it’s crucial to remember that if you are making a decision, whatever the outcome it is your life it is impacting no one else’s so whilst valuing the input of exterior opinions, you need to value yours more.


Alone time gives you the opportunity to give yourself a bit of love. Having a bubble bath, wandering around your local area taking pictures, shopping, listening to music, Netflix binging or reading a book, whatever it is it’s important to do something for you. Remember you are good enough, you are worth it.


Appreciating stillness and peace is one of my favourite moments, as in not having the TV on and my phone on silent. I am lucky to live along the River Thames and I enjoy opening the balcony door listening to the waves. I appreciate the relaxing sounds and don’t need to feel comforted with having the TV on in the background which is quite frankly what I have always done. Silence can give you a clearer mind cutting out the noise of everyday life.


I am at my most ingenious when I am alone even if I do say so myself. I find when I’m walking I am visionary, overloaded with what I want to blog about and constantly making notes on my phone. I should be completely switching off but when those creative juices are flowing I can’t let them go. Sometimes that time out can really help you think more clearly.

How often do you get alone time? Do you enjoy your own company?

N x

So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.


  1. September 23, 2017 / 8:31 pm

    I love this, it really made me stop and think!! I do enjoy my own company and like to have at least one afternoon a week in the house, by myself, doing my thing!! I also much prefer to clothes shop by myself!! I can’t stand having another person with me when i’m trying on clothes etc!! I’ll have to build up to the cinema one i think! It is something I wanna do by myself just to prove to myself that I can and its ok!! Great post, food for thought for sure xx

    • niccimcshane
      September 23, 2017 / 8:45 pm

      Thanks my love! I am the same shopping I always feel stressed like I have to rush when I’m with someone else! The cinema I’ve done a few times now and quite enjoy it ha xxxx

  2. September 25, 2017 / 11:05 pm

    Love this post. I couldn’t agree more – learning to enjoy your own company is SO important. I also really need to read The Secret!

    • niccimcshane
      September 26, 2017 / 8:42 am

      It’s brilliant it really does help to change your life!

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