This can be one of the hardest things to do.
In addition to this, it’s knowing when to stand up for yourself. Is it better to let some things go to avoid potential conflict and if you’re like me, ensuring by hell or high water that you have prevented the other party from thinking they have affected you, or do you stand up for yourself in any situation regardless? Picking your battles is paramount.
This isn’t isolated to work or home, standing up for yourself allows you to take charge of your life and if required, depending on the situation can also empower you to ensure you are living and breathing your life’s morals.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent
There are however occasions when it’s best to not do anything. How many times have you been the brunt of someone’s anger and frustration only for them at a later date to apologise because they had a cranky day? Not reacting can sometimes dissolve an uncomfortable situation without feeling awkward. But if that situation doesn’t arise, here are four sure-fire ways to feel confident at standing up for yourself.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Remembering that being able to stick to your values with the ability to communicate your needs with belief, demonstrates decorum, backbone and respect. Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you’ll get it are the strongest factors for success. One of the best ways to do this is by repeating positive affirmations to yourself on a regular basis. Trust me, it works.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY NO
There are often situations where we are rail-roaded into something and think woah how did that even happen, how did it end up that I am doing this?! Annoying right. We have all been there at some point in time but it’s important to know when to politely decline without being wracked with guilt. If you are unsure of how to say no, try saying, “Thanks for thinking of me but I have too much on my plate right now,” or “I’m afraid I can’t,” or being completely honest, “I think I’ll pass.” Don’t forget you don’t need to justify yourself to anyone, if you can’t or don’t want to do something, don’t be afraid to say so.
DON’T GET ANGRY
Remaining calm is often the best way to not only diffuse a situation but the way you react to and deliver your response can make all the difference. People’s natural instinct is one of defensiveness when confronted by an angry person so the best way to assert your strength is to state facts, be logical and remove any emotion then calmly respond.
IMPROVE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
Sometimes, no words are required as it’s all in the body language and just the need to feel stronger. A couple of my favourites which I use are either the power pose (standing with your hands on your hips oozes confidence) and keeping my head up (eyes on the floor can deliver an insecure demeanour). Try it, sometimes it takes practice but if anything it gives you much more self-assurance.
How do you stand up for yourself? I would love to put some more ideas in my back pocket.
So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.