Mind Your Language

Did you know that the average person has 60,000 thoughts a day? Considering my mind is like having a hundred Google tabs open at once I am not all that surprised.

Those thoughts can often turn into inner monologues, a detailed conversation taking place in our minds. Whether it be psyching ourselves up for an event, planning the outfit of the day (trust me this requires some effort), or merely an inner dialogue as a result of people watching. Each one of our thoughts are powerful.

But how positive are our thoughts? Are they kind, encouraging and supportive or critical, mercenary and ugly? The way we talk to ourselves is important, it influences the way we feel and often, how we ago about our day. Have you ever noticed how the pessimistic thoughts can result in unfavorable outcomes and leave us feeling gloomy? Whereas the constructive progressive and upbeat thoughts have the complete opposite effect, leaving us energised and chirpy? I know which side I would rather be on.

There are so many articles published daily about how to be more mindful, the secrets to happiness and ways to improve our mood which suggests how important self-care is to people in today’s society. Controlling our thoughts is just one of the things we can take ownership of in order to feel better about ourselves. It’s something I am improving on daily, not for anyone else but for me, my inner peace.

Considering we have thousands of thoughts a day, my first thought was oh my god how am I going to control each and every one, I am going to be knackered! And if I have a negative thought will people think badly of me? But our thoughts are just that, ours. No one else knows what we are thinking but us and quite frankly, what we think is no one else’s business but ours.

Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. I will forever be mindful of what and who I am allowing into my space

The Law of Attraction states that what you think about you bring about. And those thoughts cause our feelings. Negative thoughts bring about bad feelings such as anger or disappointment which tell you that you are on the wrong track of your desires and positive thoughts bring about good feelings like love, joy and peace, telling you that you’re absolutely on the right track of your desires. I am getting much better on removing toxicity which is one of the big causes for my feelings, and not allowing it a place in my life. It’s about having a healthy respect for ourselves. So it’s important to create those boundaries not only physically but emotionally.

So how do we control our inner chat? How do we banish the inner critic and cultivate joyous and cheerful thoughts?


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Being grateful and blessed for what you already have brings more into your life. Constantly wanting more, having the latest TV, car or shoes might make you happy for a short while but it doesn’t make your life complete. How can they?

Since I have been making a daily gratitude list for a few years now it has changed my thoughts and I am more appreciative of my life. Go ahead try it, I guarantee it will help.


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How other people treat you says more about them than it does about you. Let them get on with it, you can’t fix everybody but you can fix yourself, the way you react and think about it. You can choose to remove yourself from a situation and from recurring incidents. It’s important to remember you are only in control of yourself, not what others say or do.


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You only have one life and you are in the driving seat. No one else controls your life but you. And if they try, they are not people who should have a space in your life. Your inner circle should support, encourage and not hold you back from your dreams and goals. So apply for that job, move to that city, book that experience. Do all the things that scare you, move out of your comfort zone, maximise your life and focus on the things you want to do.

Make a list of these things and plan towards achieving it. Since I have been working on my list it has made me feel excited about the future, fulfilled.

Try it and watch your life unfold around you.

By Nicci McShane


  1. May 9, 2018 / 9:19 pm

    I truly believe in the law of attraction and focusing on our own selves instead of the thoughts that others may have. I’m so much more happier and free now that I listen to myself more. I don’t know if I have all my thoughts figured out, but I do try and place gratitude and thinking about the good at the end of every day. xxx

    • niccimcshane
      May 9, 2018 / 9:30 pm

      It’s such a good exercise thinking of what we are grateful for and reflecting on the day. Its so important to put ourselves first xxx

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