Ever catch yourself saying, “Sorry but I disagree” or “Sorry but I ordered my steak medium rare.”
What exactly are you sorry for? For having your own opinion or feeling bad because you are asking for your steak to be cooked to your liking, the way you ordered it? Which I may add you are also paying good money for!
The Oxford Dictionary defines the adjective sorry as feeling sad or distressed through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune or feeling regret or penitence.
So when we find ourselves saying sorry are we merely using it as a social lubricant or are we actually, truly sorry? This brings me to how people and society have changed over the years. Ok, I am at risk of sounding really old now but when I was younger, people took each other for who they were, or at least they seemed to and there were no apologies for it. I certainly didn’t apologise for why I had a thought, an opinion or even why I was making a decision. Yet in today’s society sometimes it feels as though we have to justify what we do, say, the choices we make and even why we have worn a certain outfit for fear of upsetting someone or the dreaded judging taking place.
In my recent post, I talked about how important it is for me to be able to live my best life. And hearing so many people recently, including myself, say sorry for unnecessary things underlines my point that we only have one life and we should live it the way we want to and not spend time trying to please everyone. There will always be people who disagree with you, judge you or try to put you down to lift themselves up but what’s important to remember is that no one else is living your life but you. What they think or do is not your concern.
The things which you want to do in life, your goals, activities and thoughts are all things which define you. Each person will do things differently and that’s totally ok. Imagine if we were all the same, thousands of clones all thinking and doing the same thing, how boring would that be! We wouldn’t be able to learn from anybody or have the ability to share different experiences. So if you want to go to bed early, dye your hair blue, learn a new language, go skydiving then go do it and enjoy it! Don’t apologise for being you.
Always be proud of yourself and understand that it’s your individuality that makes you beautiful
It’s too easy to feel sorry for making a positive change, for being honest, putting yourself first or even where you come from. This could be down to a fear of upsetting others or having to explain why you have made the decision. What is important to remember is that each one of us has a right to do or feel whatever we choose and we shouldn’t apologise for it, instead we should celebrate our successes, accomplishments and choices.
And don’t forget there is no such thing as a bad choice, everything is a learning experience!
When was the last time you celebrated yourself? Try listing your achievements, things you are proud of and the things you are currently doing to achieve your goals. Don’t wait until you have achieved them to celebrate, congratulate yourself on the current steps you are taking to get there. If you don’t celebrate yourself, who else will?
So a personal message to whoever is reading this post right now, yes that’s you! Please remember there is only one you in this world, be proud of you and love yourself.
By Nicci McShane