Growing up I believed in Prince Charming, the happy ever after! The kind of life whereby a woman was looked after and life was a fairytale.
And you know there isn’t really anything wrong with that if that is what you want. Life can be a fairytale but the world of stereotyping is diminishing. We live in a world which is evolving around gratitude, appreciation, strength, determination and a strong desire to live the lives we want to.
This can, of course, be difficult if there are what seems to be, stronger or louder voices around you or even forceful expectations. I think at some point we have all been subject to that and it’s important to realise that there will always be people around that feel or act an unsupportive way. But that doesn’t mean our lives have to be lived according to someone else.
I know at this point the eyes can roll as I say we really do only have one life. We don’t get another shot at this, it is no dress rehearsal. But isn’t that true? Don’t you feel strongly about how you live your life in order to one day depart with a smile on your face thinking you made the most of it? I know I do and I don’t think I am alone in this thinking.
Being a woman hasn’t been and isn’t always easy, the recent movement #MeToo allowed diminished voices to rise to the surface but now voices are actually being heard. Women are now being heard. And whilst this is not in any way shape or form a feminist post, the point I am trying to make is that no matter the gender, each one of us now is being heard and we shouldn’t be afraid to do so. Whether that be in our personal or professional lives.
So applying the same principle to our own lives, don’t we all have an opportunity to speak out loud about what we want and go for it. Especially if it’s to enrich our own lives?
DON’T BE AFRAID
Standing up for yourself and doing the right thing is absolutely okay. So is not allowing anyone to make you feel inferior and it’s okay to have differing opinions. Be strong and brave to know when enough is enough and align yourself with your values.
CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESSES
Feeling proud of your achievements is a wonderful thing. There are of course people in this world who will try to put you down for them, that my darlings is what you call jealousy. So allow them to feel whatever they need to, but remember that so do you. So go make a list of your awesome successes and give yourself one hell of a pat on the back! You deserve it, no one else got you there but you!
STAND BY YOUR DECISIONS
You made a decision for a reason, because it aligned with your values and what you wanted. There will always be people who are more than happy to call you selfish, usually because you aren’t doing what they want you to do. That is called control. Now, advice and support is a different ball game, we seek this from people in order to make an informed decision. But once you have made your decision, it’s okay to stick by it.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Having you-time is one of the most important of all, knowing who you are and what you need to do in order to press the reset button, enjoy your own company and take time out is key to living a happy life. Use the time to think of all the things you are grateful for, surround yourself with like-minded, encouraging people and enjoy every second of it.
DRESS WITH CONFIDENCE
Wear what you want to, pout those red lips, rock those heels and that messy bun. Whatever you need to do in order to feel good, do it. It’s your prerogative.
Be happy. Be the woman you want to be. Be you.
For what it’s worth; its never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over
~F. Scott Fitzgerald
By Nicci McShane