Things I Believe In This Week: Saying No, Cyber Monday & Giving In To Relaxation

Sometimes we need to say NO so that we have more time to say YES…

A quote I read this week which helped me reassess a few things. I’ve had a rough couple of weeks with stinking flu which exacerbated my asthma causing me endless problems. Add to that trying to keep on top of my day job, my blog and lifestyle commitments made things come crashing down. I had to take stock of my life and instead of thinking I am Wonder Woman (I wish, have you seen her thighs?!) I had to accept there are just some things which were going to have to stop, even if it meant cheesing off other people.

Pink neon 'Breathe' sign

Photo Cred: Fabian Moller / Unsplash

That was the hard part, backing away from things. I realised I was making my health worse by running around trying to please others and by not taking the necessary time out to actually do what I needed to and focus on my health was only going to be a downhill battle if I didn’t invest the time now. As some of you will know from my previous posts, relaxing is not something I profess to be an expert at, I always think there is something I should be doing and it frustrates me thinking I am wasting my life away sitting doing nothing. What it did do in fact was allow me to reconnect, with myself.

The hard part about saying no is for me, what others will think. How can two letters consume you with guilt and feel like you’re doing a bad thing? What I think is important to remember is that we aren’t required to do everything that people ask us to do and those wonderful people in our world who love, respect and care for us actually do understand on the occasions where we have to say no. I think the biggest thing to remember is that it totally okay to say no sometimes. And this week has been one of those occasions.

It enabled me to relax in ways I don’t get at the moment like a Netflix binge (how good is The Sinner by the way? If you haven’t watched it I recommend. I won’t spoil it but Jessica Biel plays an awesome character), or light the candles, give my chest a rest to allow the medication and inhalers to actually take effect. It seems like such small things but I can’t tell you how happy I have felt waking in my own bed (I travel a lot for work) and knowing I didn’t have to go anywhere or do anything.

Jar of juice and straw, magazines and laptop

Photo Cred: J Kelly Brito / Unsplash

Today do something for you!

Well, apart from doing some online shopping! I mean Black Friday and Cyber Monday are you serious? Two whole days to pack the apartment full of Christmas goodies and the odd few things for myself?! What a perfect way to glue me to the sofa, light the candles and love every minute of being home! I just have to share my favourite Black Friday purchase with you…

What Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals have you found? Did you shower yourself with a little self-love? I would love to hear about your purchases!

N x

So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.


  1. November 26, 2017 / 9:33 pm

    Hope your feeling better boo!! I got Black Friday but Cyber Monday? I haven’t bought a peep! These things bug the crap out of me! Plus I haven’t heard of any major savings?! Any sites I should have a nose at? xx

    • niccimcshane
      November 26, 2017 / 9:41 pm

      Getting there slowly! Can’t believe I’ve been poorly for 2 weeks now! Haha they usually bug me but I did well out of Argos, John Lewis and House of Fraser this year! I don’t normally shop on these days but because I had no choice but to rest I was having a nosey! Xxxx

      • November 27, 2017 / 9:52 pm

        Ouuuu I have a john Lewis gift card!!
        2 weeks, baba you poor thing!! Hope your stock piling the vitamin c!! PS I think a BF haul may be in need!! Xx

        • niccimcshane
          November 28, 2017 / 6:24 am

          Yes Yes yes we do!! I’m getting there my lovely, really focused on taking it easy right now! Xxxx

          • December 3, 2017 / 11:45 am

            Yes, please do!! Need you back on form!! Hows the new job? xxx

          • niccimcshane
            December 3, 2017 / 2:01 pm

            Can’t wait to see your face!! It’s good! Super busy and keeping me focused! Xxx

          • December 18, 2017 / 9:55 pm

            Have you broken up for Christmas already??? Your not in London??? What???? Xxx

          • niccimcshane
            December 18, 2017 / 10:05 pm

            Not yet but I leave for Abu Dhabi on Thursday for a week! Xxxx

          • January 6, 2018 / 6:52 pm

            I’d sat that was amazing! Cant wait to hear all about it! xx

    • niccimcshane
      November 26, 2017 / 11:47 pm

      Thankyou! I still struggle with it too, this week I had no choice due to my health but that didn’t come without its challenges for doing so. It’s a shame but maybe it’s because I haven’t been used to saying no so often that it isn’t always accepted by some. Be true to you though, that’s my motto 🙂

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