I think I’ve got the hang of this.
I’ve learned how to make time for me and do the things I love. When I want to.
I’ve spent too long worrying about what I’m doing, whether I may be perceived as being selfish, disregarding others feelings and not always putting people first when I want to do something. What I’ve realised and accepted is that this is my life, I only get one and if I want to do something (as long as my actions aren’t going to hurt anyone) then I am going to damn well do it. And why not?
I think we spend our lives being conditioned to do what other people want us to or think we should be doing. Swayed by others opinions and thoughts when maybe people should be focused on their own lives because they also only get one. Ok, I may be getting slightly annoyed here but it really is one of my bugbears that people can have an opinion, make you feel bad for doing something and worst of all prevent you from doing it when all you are doing is living your life, the way you want to.
My New Year Resolutions include saying yes to possibilities, creating integrity to all I do, taking control of my life and respecting who I am. I think this is vital to a happy and fulfilled life. Don’t you?
One of my colleagues today said that her mum has a motto, “Start saying yes to things, say yes I can have this because I deserve it.” I love this! What a wonderful way to express self-love. I’m going to give this a go. Whilst I’ve perfected the art of naming three things every morning that I am grateful for and living fully by the belief that “I only have one life, I don’t get another go at this” it’s important that if I want to do something to expand my knowledge, further my skill set, create new memories then I should go ahead and fulfil my goals.
I started small this week in practicing self-care. It was week two of being back to work post the Christmas break, I was back in the swing of things but I knew it was easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of juggling personal and corporate life. So how to begin? How do you remind yourself to look after yourself and appreciate the moment? I decided to record it, blog about what I did and look to build on it each week.
My simple ways of practicing self-care this week:
Part of my job involves travelling so I like to ensure all is neat and tidy for when I get home. There is nothing worse than coming back to an untidy mess so I was organised in changing the bedding (ah fresh sheets I am so looking forward to slipping under those covers tonight!), quickly running around with the hoover and duster and ensuring everything was put back in its place. Heaven. Nothing to do when I get home other than my laundry and put the kettle on. It’s about making life easy for myself.
Over the Christmas break, I read four books. I can’t remember the last time I did that in such a short space of time. I disappeared for a while and completely immersed myself in the authors’ world. Total escapism. I remembered how relaxing and thought-provoking this can be so I have committed to selecting a new book and either read a few chapters when I have the time or plug in the earphones and listen to the audio version as I travel.
There is nothing more relaxing than sinking into a hot tub of bubbles, especially after a long day. You can’t go anywhere and by appreciating the moment, you can feel the hot water against your skin, breathe in the beautiful scents and allow the relaxation to wash away a chaotic mind. I have taken every opportunity this week to replace my shower with a bath and just take that little bit longer to have some additional me time. It’s worked wonders.
It’s week two of Weight Watchers. The first week was a success and I have to say although it takes an awful lot of planning and more thinking when you’re working away about healthier options but when you can resist and ensure your body gains the right nutrients without feeling guilty, it’s one rewarding feeling. I have tracked every single item which has passed my lips and I am feeling fantastic.
It really is true that when you feel a bit meh, it does help to exercise. Now hear me out because I know the last thing on your mind is to go hammer the gym when you feel crap but it doesn’t have to be anything exerting. Just going for a short walk will do the trick. It has been dreary in London of late and the temptation to remain indoors with the heating on and have a Netflix binge is too great but I have forced myself on these occasions to go out and take some time to just even see if it helped improve my mood. And it did. Nothing strenuous, a 30-60 minute walk on my lunch break has cleared the cobwebs and allowed me to think much more clearly. Sticking the headphones in and listening to a few Podcasts helped make the time go faster so it’s an activity I highly recommend.
For the first time in a few months, I went to the gym, I wanted time to slowly get myself back into my fitness regime. I say slowly but dam I was itching to go for a run. Before meeting my colleagues for dinner I took myself off to the hotel gym and those 60 minutes with just me, myself and I was a cracker. I not only eased myself in, I completed an hour’s run and felt amazing afterward!
Sometimes you don’t need to spend money to practice self-care. Yes, a massage, nail or hair appointment can provide that boost but it just goes to show that sometimes it’s the small things that can be incorporated into our daily routine which can provide that awesome fulfilled and satisfied feeling.
How have you practiced self-care this week? I would love to hear about it and maybe steal some tips!
Feel free to let me know in the comments below…
So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.