How To Feel Grateful When Things Are Tough

“Think of three things to be grateful for…”

Something I do every morning as soon as I wake, now a habit. And it’s also something I say to myself when I’m feeling a little fed up.

But what about the times when that just doesn’t work? The last thing you want to hear is, “Cheer up! Focus on the positives!” My immediate reaction is oh wow that’s amazing, I wish I had thought of that! I mean seriously?

This week I found myself having a moment and was muttering under my breath, reminding myself to think of three things I’m grateful for to quickly ground me and focus on the things which really matter. It wasn’t easy and doesn’t always work for everyone, not all of the time. Sometimes bad things happen, things you can’t control or explain and your usual mechanisms of coping are completely useless. The positives all of a sudden seem too distant, they are muddied in your brain and everything feels disorganised.

At times like this, it’s not the big positives and the typical things you may feel grateful for, it’s the teensy-weensy things which count and provide comfort. For example, in the office when my friend offers me a cup of tea. That for me is like a woman walking in with a halo on her head. It brightens me up in a jiffy. The mere thought of knowing a steaming brew is coming my way within a few minutes is pretty majestic but it’s the fact she actually thought to ask which is more meaningful. Just small things like this can be a good start to thinking of things which you are grateful for and it certainly helps me.

Happy Days Ahead

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The attitude of gratitude can sometimes be onerous but adjusting the way you think of it can help.


Making a list of anything you can think of, big or small can aid in realigning thoughts. All of a sudden that morning cuppa, that smile your partner gives you, the way your dog comes running towards you when you get home, they all provide an element of comfort. All things to be grateful for. For me it’s a shoulder-drop moment.


We have all had them, strenuous and troublesome, but what is paramount to remember is…you got through it. Learning to pause and question whether, in an hour, a day, a week, a month or a year will this really matter can help put things into perspective. Just like the previous times that you came through the other side, you will get through this too. And anyone who provided support throughout these rough patches, friends, family, colleagues, they will be there for you again. A nice feeling right?


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Sounds a bit silly and erm durr obviously, but I think this is a fact which every single person takes for granted each day. Remember you are loved, special and have a wonderful opportunity in having a life to live. You don’t get another go at it, this is no dress rehearsal, enjoy and be thankful.

When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears
~Anthony Robbins

I’m not saying it will fix all of your problems but it absolutely makes you feel better.

How do you practice gratitude when times are tough?

N x

So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.


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