Learning To Love The Girl In The Mirror Book Review (& giveaway!)

What a bloody brilliant title for a book!

Self-improvement has become extremely important to me over the last few years, hence launching a blog focused on self-love and confidence. I have learned how to love myself, to love the skin I am in. It wasn’t easy, it was a journey of battling against negative body images issues, fighting confidence stealers and those who felt it was acceptable to try and control my life. Basically, I was weak, all because I didn’t know who I was or what I stood for. I wasn’t in love with the skin I was in.

Until now.

Nicci McShane

Photo Cred: niccimcshane.com

And it looks like I am not alone. Let me introduce you to Helena Grace Donald from Girl Unfiltered, a British actress now working in LA. She struggled with bulimia during her teenage years and is now sharing her experience on negative body image and confidence issues throughout this time. Whilst I haven’t suffered from bulimia I have been a victim of who she calls ‘Little Miss Critical’ so you can imagine my joy when I was invited to join her Blog Tour, Learning To Love The Girl In The Mirror to help raise awareness and provide youngsters with the tools I wish I had when I was younger, on how to banish that inner critic.

It’s an easy read, appropriate for all levels and whilst it’s written for young women, this is a book of understanding and appreciation of how badly this negative voice can impact us at every age and every gender.

If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it yourself
~Helena Grace Donald


Helena’s story is important. You see over 1.6 million people in the UK are affected by eating disorders and with the ever-increasing, ‘perfect’ Instagram look, use of dangerously thin catwalk models and the pressure body shaming brings, books like this are not only relevant, they are critical. Kids can also be bullies, one cruel word can inflict pain where you don’t feel accepted leading to potential self-destruction. I wish I had had a tool like this to refer to when growing up. It’s things I have learned along the journey called life and now only in adult years am I confident enough to quieten that inner critic. It’s taken years of practising different tools and techniques to ensure I maximise my life and in the way only I want to.


  • You learn about self-love and why it is important.
  • It’s personal, written by someone who has been through this already and understands how you feel.
  • Each section ends with a ‘Big Sis Memo’ which shower you with kind and meaningful words which any big sister would say. It’s a lovely way of holding your hand through the journey, letting you know you’re not alone.
  • Whilst it is written for young women it’s a fantastic reminder for anyone of any age on how to love who we are.
  • It provides techniques for not wasting time putting yourself down and how to enjoy your life.
  • It is packed with scenarios, real-life examples, tools and tips. Whilst discussing and teaching, you are also taught ‘how’.
  • You learn how to celebrate food, it isn’t the enemy.
  • You learn about gratitude, pride, confidence, self-love and empowerment.
  • It’s relevant. In a world of social media body shaming, body comparisons and striving for that perfect hair, makeup and body it’s impacting people of all ages more than we realise.
  • Each chapter recaps on what you have learned and the end of the book provides a summary of all key things discussed on how to move closer to feeling happier and living the life you deserve to live.


Feel ready to join the journey to being your lifelong best friend? Then this is the book for you! Read all about Helena’s stories and allow her to walk alongside you or your little ones to be the best version of ourselves, fall in love with ourselves and live the best life we possibly can.

I am pleased and honoured to have a copy of Learning to Love the Girl in the Mirror to giveaway to a lucky reader. Don’t miss out, I guarantee you will not be able to put it down! Here’s how to enter:


– Your first name

– Your email address

– One thing you love about yourself!

This competition will end in ten days time (02.04.18) – good luck!

N x

So hey you, yes you…I want to thank you for reading my post. Whether you’ve stuck around since the beginning of my journey or whether you’re new to my blog, thank you for reading and supporting. I genuinely appreciate it.


  1. March 25, 2018 / 4:24 pm

    I love the messages here! It took me a long time to realize how capable and strong I am💪🏻. Self love!!!!😍❤️

    • niccimcshane
      March 25, 2018 / 4:25 pm

      Oh I’m so pleased you feel that way & here’s to self love!!! 🙌🏼💋

  2. March 27, 2018 / 2:28 pm

    Hey there! My name is Frederike (everyone calls me Freddy though) and about me I like my sense of humour because it brings joy to me and the people I love ✨ My e-mail is sickocean[at]women-at-work.org

  3. allthingspopsx
    March 31, 2018 / 3:52 pm

    Love this post! I have never heard of this book but always love the self-love books. Will definitely be buying this tonight, thank you 🙂 x

    • niccimcshane
      April 7, 2018 / 11:33 pm

      It’s a brilliant book you won’t be disappointed!!! Xxx

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