Why Facing One Of My Fears Has Changed My Outlook On Life

Everyone has fears. And whilst they can scare the living daylights out of us, they can also make us extremely resilient.

Last week I chose to face one of my fears to help raise money for the NSPCC, the UK’s leading Children’s Society. I abseiled down my work building, all 227ft of it, which I am told is the height of 16 double-decker buses! It was a serious sweaty palm moment for me and one which kept me awake the night before as the time fast approached.

I can totally cope with heights if I am nowhere (and I mean nowhere) near the edge and I am unable to look down. So stepping back off the edge of a tall building was my idea of absolute hell.

You gain strength & confidence by experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
~Eleanor Roosevelt

It all started off with smiles and a this isn’t really happening thought process.



Which quickly turned to hurling obscenities at the poor guy and some serious panic.

The experience was daunting, scary and quite frankly, horrifying but I did it. I didn’t back out. I am beaming with pride and knowing I have been able to help the NSPCC work to protect children and prevent abuse so we can make child abuse a thing of the past, is extremely worthwhile.


I have achieved some colossal things in life but this was something different. It has helped prove to myself that I really can do anything I set my mind to. There is nothing and nobody who can prevent me from triumph other than myself.

I believe that goals and dreams help us to live our best lives. They help to complete us. We learn more, we build our confidence, realise things about ourselves that we maybe didn’t know and it drives us on to the next thing. There are many things in my life that I still want to achieve and knowing that I need not be afraid of doing things which scare me is taking my goals to a whole new level. Why limit myself to my full potential, right?

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
~CS Lewis

It has also helped me to stop worrying so much. I am one of the world’s biggest worriers and achieving something like this has helped put things into perspective. When I now find myself in an anxious moment, I compare it to the feeling I had at the top of the building and it quickly becomes inconsequential.

Facing our fears is essential to our wellbeing and it’s important to celebrate ourselves combined with some positive self-talk. It can be a wonderful experience and one which leaves you motivated for the next challenge.

What fears have you faced, how did it make you feel?

By Nicci McShane


  1. September 24, 2018 / 1:31 pm

    God bless you for doing that and for a great cause as well. Yes you were scared, but you did it. I feel the same way about walking on bridges. I don’t know when or why that happened but I’m scared to walk on some bridges. I’ve done it on some and slowly but surely I’m getting over those fears. Thank you for this post, I’m inspired to get rid of some of my fears little by little. Lol, I’m going to start with those bridges here in New York City .

    • niccimcshane
      September 24, 2018 / 1:41 pm

      Oh wow bless you! I completely appreciate how you might feel and good on you for trying to conquer those fears! You go girl!!! X

  2. Rian Edwards
    September 24, 2018 / 1:37 pm

    Well done Noo!!!! Even more so that you did the whole thing with red lipstick on! Would expect nothing less. Brilliant cause and so impressed how brave you were xx

    • niccimcshane
      September 24, 2018 / 1:42 pm

      Oh thank you darling! That means so much to me! And the red lippy was the talk of the office!! Xx

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