Sometimes the greatest adventure is simply a conversation.
Striking up a conversation can put the fear of God into some people, thoughts whirling in their head with panic asking themselves what to say or what to do if they don’t respond?
The anxiety can be paralysing.
But for some, yes ok, people like me, I find it easy. I don’t give it a second thought and can make as much small talk as possible.
I’m renowned for being able to chat with anyone. I make friends on a plane and randomly in the lift. My friends and colleagues laugh and roll their eyes but in my defence, I think I also have one of those faces as people also randomly chat with me. Honestly!
I can almost hear my pals chuckling and shaking their heads in disbelief at that statement but I don’t think they can deny that maybe I just have one of those faces or maybe it’s just because I love to chat. They definitely won’t refute that!
Why do I find it so easy?
I actually don’t know. I wish I could bottle it and pass it around for people who panic at the mere thought of it. In my teens, I worked as a dental receptionist to earn a few extra bucks when I was studying so I think that has helped build confidence at an early age. Not everyone enjoys visiting the dentist so putting people at ease by chatting and taking their mind off it has probably followed me into adulthood. I don’t even think about it now, I just say hello and then it begins…
Why do I do it?
It comes naturally but it’s most definitely becoming a topic of conversation amongst my colleagues and friends which has led this to be today’s topic. I’m sure there are many more reasons, but here are a few which spring to mind.
People are interesting, they have different experiences, lives and adventures. I appreciate hearing their stories, accomplishments and ordeals. There’s always something you can learn from someone.
A SHORTER COMMUTE
What better entertainment do you need other than having a conversation about literally anything? The work commute can be much more interesting but don’t miss your stop!
Yes, this has happened to me.
Listening to people’s professional and personal autobiographies can make you feel you can achieve anything, reaching for the stars actually is possible. Their success stories allow you to realise that you can do what you set your mind to.
I COULD MAKE SOMEONE’S DAY
Just one compliment can turn someone’s frown upside down. I don’t know anyone who feels worse for receiving a compliment. Comment on someone’s clothes or new hairdo and watch that smile take over their face. Go ahead try it!
Don’t allow the ‘Don’t talk to strangers’ motto be an issue in adulthood. You never know what you’re missing out on, who you may meet and what you may learn.
Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t
The next person you meet could be an amazing new friend, give you a new job opportunity or even give you that compliment which makes your day!
How comfortable are you at talking to strangers? Do you find it as easy as me or does it fill you with dread?
By Nicci McShane