Happiness Is An Inside Job

This weekend I watched Freddy Mercury and the British rock band Queen in the movie Bohemian Rhapsody.

Not only was it a compelling tribute to an incredible artist and band but it highlighted the power of friendship and the significance of real happiness.

True happiness comes from within yourself, not from someone else.
Stop searching, start living.
~ Unknown

Society has taught us that in order to be happy we need to have the perfect relationship, the best job, the slimmest figure and the sexiest car, the list is not exhaustive. But what if you have all that? Are you really truly happy? If the belief is that happiness only comes from external connections then true fulfilment is never really realised.

How many people do you know who have recently bought something absolutely new and yet a few months later decide they need something better and that one is no longer good enough? And then the same situation happens again and again on repeat.

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Photo Cred: Element5 Digital / Unsplash

Or do you know anyone who is unable to live their own life because maybe they aren’t actually sure of what they should be doing because others around them have too strong a voice and make them feel that they need validation for making a decision? Or maybe they even feel that they are controlled by what other people want them to do.

Unfortunately, this is common in today’s society but as the movie reminded me today, having the right people in your circle, both supportive and encouraging are key to nurturing your happiness. These people will provide security, motivation and inspiration to be the very best version of yourself.

Your time is limited.
Don’t waste it living someone else’s life.

Constantly searching for happiness in whatever shape or form it may be, means that our thoughts are in the future, so we aren’t present in the here and now. We forget about our current surroundings, how we feel about where we are right now and who we are with. It comes down to an attitude of gratitude.

So it’s all well and good saying that happiness should come from within, but how do we actually go about and feel this?

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Photo Cred: Omar Lopez / Unsplash

MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF

The famous designer Diane Von Furstenberg famously once said, “The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship of your life.” I couldn’t agree with this more. It’s important to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself the way you would like others to treat you. Be your own best friend.

FORGIVE YOURSELF

Worrying about things we have said or done in the past isn’t going to do us any good now. We can’t change the past. But we can change the future. We all make mistakes but we learn from them so pour a glass of wine, give yourself a little Cheers! and forgive yourself.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE

Gratitude doesn’t have to be about big-ticket items or things that you own. Try thinking of the wonderful people in your life, the awesome job you have, hot running water in the morning for a reviving shower or electricity to watch your favourite programmes on TV.

If you really struggle and you’re feeling in a bit of a funk close your eyes and think how grateful you are to be able to breathe, see, feel and taste. I promise you it will help.

The most important thing here is to allow your gut instinct to guide you on what makes you happy. You know instinctively by the way you feel whether something makes you joyous or sad. So remember, trust you.

By Nicci McShane

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